Daily splended moments

Your personal goals can help you and make you successful even when bad things are running their course. We sometimes encounter even hardships. The question is not about turning your life around and doing it immediately. It’s about changing the pitfall of thinking that you are not able to do something you dream of.

When it comes to your goals, they may seem like huge mountains. Nevertheless, even mountains can be ruined by your persistence. You CAN do it!

When we are patient, we are happier and calmer. Granted, patience can evaluate our physical and mental well-being.

Patience can also promote peace. It protects us from reacting too quickly and saying something unkind when we are under stress or trial.

Are you open to new ideas?

Some people close their minds to new ideas. They may reject them as they differ from their standpoint. An Oriental proverb says: “Suspicion creates monsters in the dark”. Are you open-minded enough to look at new thoughts, goals or ideas?

Examining new ideas can widen our horizons and may benefit us in other ways. However, does it mean that we MUST be open to every new idea that comes alone? Be selective!

Rather than be blinded to new things presented to us, we need to make careful and exact research on whether they are meaningful and reasonable for us. If we are selective, we won’t be swayed by every passing fad that can be harmful to our health and even life.

Accurate knowledge of this point will equip us to determine whether new ideas are of real value or not.

When we get angry, we often lose control of our tongue. Sometimes it’s more difficult to control our tongue when we are under pressure. At that very moment, we are apt to vent all our negative pent-up feelings.

Only someone with a heart full of love, with a sensitive mind and humble disposition, could use the tongue in the right way. What is a key? – DISCERNMENT.

Discernment will help us control our urges to blurt out what is hurtful. If we have been offended, let’s speak to another person alone in a mild and humble spirit, with a view to restoring peace.

What if an outburst of anger has already occurred? Then love and discernment will move us to swallow our pride and humbly seek to make amends. This is the time to get through, to express regret and heal hurt feelings through sincere communication.

Simply being alone isn’t necessarily being lonely. That’s true indeed. Lots of people cherish some solitude so they can ponder on their further life, and redefine goals and the ways to implement them.

Loneliness can be a bad friend if you fall into depression. It’s not a matter of never being lonely, it’s about not being overwhelmed by it. Sometimes it’s useful to keep yourself busy doing something for others with an unselfish motive.

That’s time for your own.

Such a standpoint can prevent you from crippling self-pity and loss of self-respect.

Where can you find comforting support today? Your family members, friends even co-workers can be the most effective and realistic emotional supporters.

Everyone needs someone in whom to confine personal feelings.

It’s stimulating to keep close in mind that fire-fighters rarely experience burnout. It’s because in addition to being considered heroes, they are tied together by a strong bond of camaraderie. You can do the same thing. Call your relatives, give practical support to your friends, and spend time together.

We must keep on guard against the harshness and strive to be merciful. Mercy is more than just a feeling. In fact, mercy has been defined as “compassion in action”.

No doubt, there are lots of opportunities to express mercy. Is there anyone in need of comfort? Can we offer practical help, perhaps providing some food, or doing some thoughtful deed? Can we share a comforting message of polite, encouraging words to lift up somebody’s spirit?

Change is challenging for the majority of us. Some of us change our occupation, others face hardships. It’s normal to feel disappointed when such changes affect us.

Consequently, if a change affects your personality, avoid getting caught up in the “WHYS and WHEREFORES” behind the change. The most dangerous question is: “Wherefore was I born?”

Rather than longing for the former days, look for the good in the change. Keep a positive attitude! Thus, we remain joyful even when our circumstances change.

Whether we are artists or not, we can learn to observe more clearly the beauty around us.

Beauty is everywhere. In other words, we should go out and look at things in a new light.

But what need to look for? We can kick off by learning to notice the basic elements of beauty: forms, light, color, and composition.

These elements can be discerned in almost every facet of nature, people and things surrounding us.

The next bottom-line step is noticing the Small and the Great.

For this reason, both big and small things are amazing and our pleasure will be multiplied if we learn to see details, which also combine pleasingly. To appreciate the Small and the Great we need to stoop down and take a closer look at our splendid world.

We should point to some extraordinary features of nature. However, we may not always find it easy to do.

If we live in a city, we may see little evidence of nature in our daily lives. Even if we do live close to Nature, we may feel that we have little time to study it.

Why is it worthwhile to take time and try an effort to observe creation with our kids, friends and even ourselves?

Sometimes we can just lift our eyes to heaven and see magnificent clouds and stars. We can also enjoy the variety of creations by means of our five senses – sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste.

When our kids are well-acquainted with nature, they won’t take it for granted.

We too need to be modest and realistic in what we expect from others. It will help us to set appropriate goals according to our abilities and circumstances. Thus, we certainly want working whole-souled and exerting ourselves vigorously in up-to-date activities.

In addition, thoughts and feelings lead to words and actions. We urge to cultivate positive qualities of mind and heart, such as a mildness of temper, and an inclination to be merciful, peaceable, and loving others.

As we build up such qualities in our hearts, the result will be wholesome speech.

From time to time, all of us are distressed by various trials. The fact, that we undergo trials doesn’t necessarily mean we are enduring it. No. The Greek noun “endurance” means “the capacity to hold out or bear up in the face of difficulty”.

To endure something isn’t simply a matter of experiencing inescapable hardship. Endurance involves steadfastness, keeping the right mental attitude and a hopeful outlook in the face of trials.

Endurance results and has positive outcomes if we confront and overcome them.

Each life’s span test strengthens us to meet the next one.

As you examine yourself, look for progress, not perfection.

If you see room for improvement, don’t be discouraged.

Avoid the pitfall of thinking that no one else can understand the particular challenge you are facing. Thinking that way could lead you to conclude that your situation is hopeless.

Setbacks and failures are absolutely common – they are part of our life and the road to success.

Forgiving takes time and effort, but we can do it no matter where we are, where we live or what our financial circumstances are.

An oriental proverb says: “The one who is walking with wise, will become wise”. Friends who have strong moral principles can always give a cheerful countenance to us. They can cause us to become stronger, better, and more valuable.

When our friends love, justice, and mercy, don’t look down on us, or our mistakes, we can benefit both ourselves and them.

On the other hand, people who are different in age and circumstances from us can become our best friends and we will have a remarkable friendship.

Raising kids is a challenge nowadays. Yes, it’s vital that kids see their parents as approachable. If you are a parent, you know that there are times when you are too busy to give your kid the attention he calls for. Still, can you assure him that you will make time for him as soon as possible?

As you keep your word, your kid will learn the rewards of patience. He will also learn that he is always welcome to approach you with any problem or care.

Sometimes you may be tempted to dismiss your kid’s concern as something trivial. You may be even tempted to laugh about it. Compared to your own burdens, kid’s problems may indeed seem insignificant. Remember, though, that it’s not trivial to your kid.

Conveying to your kid that you care about his concerns will make you an approachable parent.

Life is an incredible journey and offers endless possibilities and odds. As parents, this is what we should encourage and help our children to nurture their optimism and explore their dreams.

From a psychological standpoint, it’s unwise to tell anybody they aren’t good at capable enough to do something. Even if your child wants to become an astronaut or scientist, never discreet him or her.

If the odds are already against them, you are the one, who can support your children’s dreams. Focus your energy and wisdom on being a supportive parent and let your children follow their own path.

Keep your lines of communication open. Tell children about your dreams and how to pursue them. Don’t withhold how you are pleased with your children’s dreams.